I read a Toltec book about Love. You may have heard of it: The Mastery of Love. It was a unique take on the idea of love. Basically, the book says that you have to master self-love before you can ever give love to a relationship. You have to love yourself so much that you don’t even need a relationship at all. Only in this way can you truly have love and not an addiction to love.
So I started thinking: how do we master self-love?
I have a few ideas.
Think about a few reasons why you are grateful FOR YOURSELF everyday. For example, I am grateful for my health and my intellect.
Try mantras. Look in the mirror and tell yourself you are incredible and that you love yourself. Sound stupid, I know, but it works.
Stop focusing on the negative and start changing your thoughts to positive ones. Boost your own ego! Go ahead I give you permission.
Well what do you guys think? Do you need to master self-love before you can find real love?
I’m sure you have heard of the 7 Habit’s of Highly Effective People. It is a would renowned book. Famous. “Life changing.” Right? Well, not exactly. I thought it was mostly common sense and I didn’t get too much out of it so I thought I would summarized it here for your review (and save you the dozen hours or so of reading).
So what are the 7 habits?
- Be Proactive
- Begin With the End in Mind
- Put First Things First
- Think Win-Win
- Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
- Sharpen the Saw
Yup, that’s it. Now what do they mean? Well basically, the author Steven Covey is telling us that we need to be in charge of our own lives. Take action. Also, we need to take action based on the results we want to get (begin with the end in mind).
Once we do these things we can focus on putting first things first, that is focusing on things that are important but not urgent (vs urgent and important, urgent and not important or not urgent and not important). This maximizes the value of our time.
We also need to think win-win. Any kind of win-loose solution will simply not work. It might work for us, but at what expense? If you want highly effective employees or synergy with your family you always have to discover win-win solutions.
Next, focus on understanding others. Our inherent nature is to only focus on ourselves. In fact we rarely listen and mostly wait to give our response to people. To really truly listen, is a great skill to master.
Synergize. This goes along with win-win. You want to do greater things as a group than you could as an individual. This includes your family and your business.
And lastly, sharpen the saw. Improve your skills. Never stop growing and learning as this is life.
I hope this was helpful and keeps you from spending the good part of 2 days reading a common sense book. The values in it are true, and can be helpful, but I think a summary is sufficient for you to get what you need out of it.
Until my next set of ramblings