If you missed out on the “I wanna be an original!” discussion, check out Part 1 here.
Okay. Now we are all on the same page and we all know NOT to be a bunch of sheep. Check.
Well, in this discussion I really wanted to focus on how to RAISE an ORIGINAL. That’s right. How do you raise your children to be individual thinkers?
It starts with the way we parent them. If we are too strict, we force them to conform to our rules and we may stifle their individual thoughts and talents. Did you know that the youngest born child is the most likely to be creative and to pursue non-traditional forms of work? Take comics for example. They are 85% more likely to be the last born than the 1st born. Why? Because their older siblings probably already filled a traditional career role leaving them to feel safe to do something non-traditional. Or maybe they just don’t want to compete so they look for other alternatives.
What about how we talk to kids? Instead of saying, “Don’t cheat!” you are better off saying, “You don’t want to be a cheater.” Giving a bad characteristic to a person and naming it as a noun gives it more weight and allows children to make choices based on the person they perceive themselves to be. It also helps to allow them the freedom to make choices while instilling strong family values so that they are raised with individuality without getting into trouble.
Children need freedom and safety to grow and foster their unique strengths. Unfortunately we rarely do this correctly. Instead of having our children be the pioneers of new ideas, we push them toward traditional careers such as doctors and nurses. This is possibly holding them back from being truly unique.
What are you going to do to foster your children’s uniqueness?
New audiobook. New rant.
How to be original in business and in life.
For one, you really can’t worry about what other people think. I mean, REALLY. Get over it. If you are always worried about what other people think about you, you will always conform to the general publics ideas and wants. If you want to be original, you have to stand out from the crowd and that usually means accepting the fact that you are going to be unpopular with most.
Take for example, this simple experiment. If you hear a new idea, most people balk at it. They don’t like it. But if they are introduced to it 5 times or more, they begin to accept it because it feels more familiar. This is proven in research. That’s why most new ideas get shot down. No one likes them. This includes TV shows, for example. Seinfeld was not widely accepted at first. In fact, no one even wanted to run it on TV. But now it is considered the greatest television comedy ever made. But it wasn’t popular at first. Not even close. People didn’t understand a show about “nothing.”
So that’s the first step. Accept the fact that you will be unpopular.
But then how to you get the idea to truly be accepted?
More on that next time….
P.S. (Have questions? Can’t wait? Comment below or contact me here.)
I read a lot of books. Probably 1 a week. I was thinking a lot about something Gary Vee said in his latest audiobook “Ask Gary Vee.” He said that it is more important to build depth rather than width in business and in life.
Really. So I started thinking about friendships and family. I started thinking about whether I was gathering new contacts or acquaintances instead of building depth with the ones that I already have.
Then I started thinking about work. Business. Is it better to build more customers? Grow your customer base? Or should we focus on the satisfaction and loyalty of the ones we already have? It seems that by focusing on the one’s we already have, your buisness will grow from a natural place. It won’t be forced. You won’t have lots of customer turnover because they will be truly happy with your product or service and then will refer others to your business. Of course, that doesn’t mean that you can forget about growing your business. Because, if you aren’t growing in business you are dying. But it does raise an important question: should we focus on the customers we have now or focus on getting new ones? I think that we need to do both to be successful in business. I don’t think either end can be forgotten if you truly want to grow into a successful thriving business. You want happy customers AND new customers. Am I right?
Let me know your thoughts. Comment. Give me a shout.
That’s all for now,
I’m sure you have heard of the 7 Habit’s of Highly Effective People. It is a would renowned book. Famous. “Life changing.” Right? Well, not exactly. I thought it was mostly common sense and I didn’t get too much out of it so I thought I would summarized it here for your review (and save you the dozen hours or so of reading).
So what are the 7 habits?
- Be Proactive
- Begin With the End in Mind
- Put First Things First
- Think Win-Win
- Seek First to Understand, then to be Understood
- Sharpen the Saw
Yup, that’s it. Now what do they mean? Well basically, the author Steven Covey is telling us that we need to be in charge of our own lives. Take action. Also, we need to take action based on the results we want to get (begin with the end in mind).
Once we do these things we can focus on putting first things first, that is focusing on things that are important but not urgent (vs urgent and important, urgent and not important or not urgent and not important). This maximizes the value of our time.
We also need to think win-win. Any kind of win-loose solution will simply not work. It might work for us, but at what expense? If you want highly effective employees or synergy with your family you always have to discover win-win solutions.
Next, focus on understanding others. Our inherent nature is to only focus on ourselves. In fact we rarely listen and mostly wait to give our response to people. To really truly listen, is a great skill to master.
Synergize. This goes along with win-win. You want to do greater things as a group than you could as an individual. This includes your family and your business.
And lastly, sharpen the saw. Improve your skills. Never stop growing and learning as this is life.
I hope this was helpful and keeps you from spending the good part of 2 days reading a common sense book. The values in it are true, and can be helpful, but I think a summary is sufficient for you to get what you need out of it.
Until my next set of ramblings
This is the beginning. I am Bobby. I’m a SoCal free spirit, if that even exists. I enjoy reading, writing, eating, cooking, and discussing the meaning of life with friends. I am a daydreamer. A fantasizer. An eternal optimist.
I am starting this blog as a journal of sorts. I hope that I can streamline my variety of adventures and ideas into something coherent and meaningful for you, my readers. I appreciate you all so much (although, technically speaking, this is my first blog post and none of you exist yet.)
Until next time,